Your enemy is your best ally;


Benefits of having an enemy outweighs the costs. Moreover, you will suffer if you do not have a real oppponent because a strong opponent makes you tougher, bolder, stronger and wiser. Your oppponent makes you challenge your limits and makes you  alert to threats.

The real harm is not made by your opponent because you are expecting the possible attacks/threats and you are presumably well prepared for them. However, the real damages result from the ones you do not expect: Your seemingly friends; Voltaire was definetly right in his pray: “Lord, protect me from my friends; I can take care of my enemies“. And the damage from your friends is more psychological than material.

My personal manifestation:

I have always thanked to all who tried to willingly and  consciously deceive or hurt me. I do not  curse them. Actually, they have not worked against me, on the contrary, they worked for me. They are my best allies. Their cruel intentions trained my receptors to seize the hidden agendas easily, accurately  and promptly more than ever. I think that if I want to be a better manager, I have to distinguish the good from bad, honest from hypocrite, and real from false. I would not learn to distinguish them unless I have been deceived or tried to be deceived by my opponents. And I have always protected my self respect and self image by not applying any immoral tactics as my antagonists did. I believe that the key point is this. You should resist not to be pulled to the immoral area. The merit is not to be right but to sustain the legitimacy.

Moral of the story: Competition is great. Opponents are greater. Challenged by an opponent, you leave your comfort zone. You practice, think and develop strategies. If your competitor is as clever as you, than you are luckier because you develop faster and better. You need to thank to your enemies rather than cursing them.

Song of Desree (You Gotta Be) makes you feel like you are stronger :

About ozgurzan

Professional: 1999- Co-founder and Managing Director of Done Information & Comm. Systems http://www.donetr.com http://www.donelabs.com Academic: 2008 Ph.D. Organization and Management - Yeditepe University 2002 MBA - Yeditepe University 1994 Computer Engineering - Bogazici University
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3 Responses to Your enemy is your best ally;

  1. On a less bitter note, I started my current company because of a new business partner’s inability or lack of desire to understand how an innovation company worked. I left that organization 26 years ago and have been told several times that he had bad things to say about me. If he had been easier to work with I would have still been there, a small contract assembler that has now been sold. I should and often to make the comment that he did me a great favor.

    Reminds me of a story I heard about the Buddha. He travelled from village to village with his followers and came upon a village where they were not welcome; in fact they were vilified. The Buddha spoke to the village elder and told him that they were welcomed warmly at the last village. In fact, they had to refuse the gifts and food that they were offered and the villagers returned to their homes to share them with their families and friends. He went on to say that he and his followers were in the same postion now and that the villagers here would have to take their anger home as well.

    • ozgurzan says:

      Dear Dennis Siemer,

      Thank you very much for your own experience and the story of Buddha. I also want to share with you two similar quotes of Eleanor Roosevelt and Mahatma Gandhi “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” and “They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them” respectively.

      Best Regards,
      Ozgur Zan

    • ozgurzan says:

      Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
      Gautama Buddha

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